Paying It Forward in Abilene, Kansas
by Dr. Lisa Eastman
Linda Douglas is frequently seen at Abilene auctions. What you
might not know is that she is making purchases to help people in need.
Douglas said, “Juanita Bermilla and I help people in town with
food. We help pregnant women get clothes, toys and bedding for the babies. We
go to auctions to buy furniture to help people that move to town and don’t have
anything. We also take the elderly to the doctor and fix their meals for them.
We pay everything forward.”
On the question of why she does so much for others Linda
replied, “I enjoy helping people because I grew up taking care of my mama. She
was disabled and had three kids after I was born. I raised them also. To this
day if they have a problem they call me to help them out. When I was in school,
I always made friends with the mentally challenged for they couldn't take care
of themselves.”
Douglas became a certified nurse's aid to be able to continue her
mission to help people after graduating from high school. An accident left her
disabled but she still continues her efforts despite that. “23 years ago I was
in a bad accident. I had to learn to walk, talk and everything for myself
again. Now I am the disabled one. So I pay it forward. I can't work. Some days
I can't even walk because the pain is so bad. On our good days Juanita and I go
and find things to buy for the young pregnant women. We will go and give food
to those who don't have it. I miss my elderly who actually need the love and
understanding of a person who takes care of them.”
There is a concept within Christianity known as “good
works.” Pastor Shane Britt of Emmanuel Church shared his thoughts on the subject. “That is a lot of what Jesus taught
(good works) and the example he set. He spoke a lot about how it is our
responsibility to help. At the church, we try to help when we can. In
Christianity the works become evidence of your faith.”
The more contemporary version of good works might very well be
the concept of “paying it forward.” The first mention of this idea was printed
in a book by author Lily Hardy Hammond way back in 1916. Hammond wrote,
"You don't pay love back; you pay it forward."
Despite the fact that it was first mentioned almost 100 years
ago, it has only become well known much more recently. The movie “Pay it Forward” starring Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt and Haley Joe Osment was released in
the year 2000. This was where many of us first became acquainted with the
notion.
The idea is that when someone does something nice for you,
instead of returning the favor, you do something for someone else, thus instead
of paying it back we are paying it forward.
Regardless of whether you want to call it “good works” or
“paying it forward,” the uniting theme is that of altruism. Altruism is defined
by the Merriam-Webster dictionary as “feelings and behavior that show a desire
to help other people and a lack of selfishness.”
When Earl Breeden suffered a massive stroke that left him in
need of around-the-clock care, his wife Sabrina was working a lot of hours to
pay all the expenses. Then their only vehicle was involved in an accident and
no longer drivable.
Breeden’s daughter-in-law, Julie Breeden said, "She took her car
into Holt Motors and she explained to them she only wanted a quote. They fixed
everything and delivered it to their house for free. They understood what they
were going through. They said it was one of the perks of living in a small town
and just to help someone else out if they ever could."
There are many reasons for us to want to be involved with
helping others. Much scientific research has been devoted to the study of
altruism and what motivates us to want to help others. The University of
California-Berkley has devoted many resources to this subject through the
Greater Good Science Center. They are specifically looking for “the science of
a meaningful life.”
Researchers have many studies suggesting that the benefits of
giving are great. Altruism makes us happy, healthy, promotes social connections
and can even help us financially. It can also be beneficial to our love lives,
since kindness is very high up on the list of desirable qualities in selecting
a life partner.
Berkley’s Greater Good Science Center lists 6 habits of
happiness that are worth cultivating. Pay attention, give thanks, drop grudges,
keep friends close, get moving and practice kindness.
Abilene has many people that not only practice kindness but are
also happy to lend a helping hand.
Jo Schwartz has a long history with Kiwanis. She helps with The
Place and has even traveled to Africa to help orphans. She also takes great
pleasure in the simple act of buying a soldier’s meal, when she can get away
with doing it on the sly.
Schwartz explained, "It makes your life go better and you feel
better when you do things for others. When you do something like that and no
one knows, it’s a euphoric feeling. It puts a smile on my face that will last
the whole day."
Jo Schwartz - photo by Lisa Eastman |
Retired mail carrier Elly Cauthon always had a treat ready for
the dogs on her route. She would make a mental note of animals that needed help
while delivering the mail. “I would see a dog or cat that didn’t seem to have
any food or water and on my break or after work I would go back and take it to
them.” When asked if she was ever bitten on her route she shook her head and
replied. “No, never. I was afraid of dogs when I began working for the post
office. Then I started to understand them.”
Elly Cauthon - photo by Lisa Eastman |
Paul Badding with 4-C Ministries cuts and delivers wood for
people that need it to heat their homes. They also help mothers with formula
and diapers. This is the second year that they have been providing this
service. They can be reached through their Facebook page, 4-C Ministries or by
calling Paul at 785-280-3387.
Ashlie Wendt was on the receiving end of the kindness and
generosity of Dickinson County residents after her 7 year old son was involved
in a terrible accident last summer. One local woman gave a $100 gas card to
Wendt even though she was struggling financially herself after the death of her
husband. An Enterprise couple on a fixed income searched out special turtle
balloons for the injured boy.
Pastor Britt from Emmanuel Church was credited with being a life
saver by Wendt. The pastor and the women of the church helped with food and
other necessities. There was even an anonymous donation of $750 into Wendt’s bank
account.
Wendt shared, “I was in
tears. It’s amazing how many people gave when I know they didn't have extra
money but they gave anyway.”
Excellent story on how we don't need the government to dictate our true spiritual guide.
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